If you don't change, each app pool has it's own identity. In your case, just add a new user to your database SmallBakery with the name IIS APPPOOL\SmallBakery using SQL Management Studio. You find the users list in the "Security/Users" subnode of your database. This should look something like that:
For testing, let the user be member of the db_owner role. If that works, remove this role and just let it be member of db_datareader and db_datawriter.
This way, each app pool (perhaps each website, if they all use their own app pool) only has access to the corresponding database.
If you use Default Web Site so you add "IIS APPPOOL\DefaultAppPool"
When you submitted form data into database default Contact Form DB will insert all your data form into your database so if you want to exclude field something like Google Recaptcha not insert into database.
You just go to Contact Form 7 DB --> Options then click on Save Tab. Add filed name that you want to exclude after "/.*wpcf7.*/,_wpnonce".